While researching what to write for my next blog post, I’ve seen a recurring theme in the Washington Post, New York Post and many wedding industry-related blogs writing about the same topic – COVID-19 and relationships! I thought to myself, “This is a real issue!”
From each article or blog I read, there are four words that continue to pop up – communication, support, patience and space. As a marriage officiant, I know these are the same practices that should be key in your relationship throughout its lifetime – dating, engagement, marriage, married with kids – it’s all the same characteristics to build a solid foundation for you and your partner.
I believe in these practices because I live these practices. When the coronavirus hit and we were to quarantine, I thought to myself, “Quarantine? With my husband? Heck yea! He’s awesome!” Let’s get this straight – my relationship isn’t perfect and life isn’t always awesome, but having a strong partnership with someone you love should make things go smoother, not make matters worse. In our relationship we try our best to communicate, have patience, support one another and give each other space. We built our marriage on the same values-based foundation surrounding these key practices, so when times get tough, our marriage gets stronger.
Here are a few tips to appreciate your partner on a deeper level:
- Play a communications game – place a bunch of questions in a jar written by you and your partner, drink some wine and go for it! Questions could be along the lines of, “My biggest fear is…”, “I love it best when you…”, “The one thing I’ve always wanted to tell you is…”. These are tough questions, hence the wine, but I guarantee you’ll get to know your partner better!
- Find a new quarantine hobby to do together – my husband and I experimented making our own pizza during quarantine every Friday. It became our new “date night” and by week 13, I think we perfected the recipe!
- Go for a walk – mask up and simply enjoy each other’s company!
- Have coffee in different locations of the house in the morning – don’t like coffee? Drinks, food or share anything with your partner if it just means sharing time!
Lastly, there is only one thing I want all couples out there to remember – LOVE is just the first step, which is the easy part; it’s the rest of your lifetime together that’s hard… then Coronavirus hit and it made life even harder. Please make the best of it! Be safe out there folks and please wear a mask! We’ll get through this together.