How to Elope without All the Feelings… (of other people)

An elopement is an “act or instance of running off secretly, as to be married”.  The act of running off to get married (with or without the secrecy) has become trendy as wedding costs increase.  With this, however, comes feelings.  Not the happy feelings you have for your future spouse. I’m talking about the disappointment and sadness family and close friends feel when they realize they don’t get to spend this special day with you. 

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Marriage should be about the couple, but as for weddings, that is never the case!  And people don’t discriminate against the type of wedding – huge wedding or elopement; someone will always have a feeling or an opinion.

My best advice is to focus on what is truly important to you.  If having your family and friends present is a priority, then an elopement is probably not the best option for you.  Think microwedding! But if hiking to the top of Mt. Rose with your loved one, a photographer and a marriage officiant is exactly what you want, then go for it! 

If you are to elope traditionally, prepare yourself to hurt someone’s feelings.  It’s the inevitable.  Try gently reminding them that this is what YOU and your partner want.  My hope is that they will understand and if they don’t, you must prepare yourself for that as well.  Elopements are never easy, especially among traditionalists who have dreamed about your special day too. Be considerate, be kind, but be firm as to what you two want.

Marriage and marriage ceremonies are different for each couple; as it should be.  This day of union should be unique to you and your partner and I’m here to explore any type!  Good luck!

Published by Mindy Haffke

Marriage Officiant located in Reno, NV helping couples through the post process of engagement!

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